And I recommend it. For everyone! Ok, especially for engaged couples or recently married couples. The book is comprised of 300 questions (obviously) tailored to LDS couples and is divided into six categories- things like finances, past relationships, and future hopes and dreams. Nathan and I started answering questions from it during the time we were making the marriage decision and have loved finishing it up throughout our engagement. I've enjoyed the book for two reasons. First, it's helped me get to know Nathan deeper than I ever could comprehend before. And second, and just as valuable as the first, I've gotten to know myself better! It forces me to come up with opinions and learn how to voice them! If two people in a marriage partnership are going to be able to come to conclusions on any sort of decisions, they better learn first how to have opinions, and second how to reconcile those opinions with the other's.
It is interesting to note that although many of the questions inherently come up in dating, many are questions we had never even thought to ask each other! The book provides a safe environment to ask hard questions and address seemingly hard issues- issues that not only might come up in marriage, but invariably will come up in marriage. If you do choose to make this book part of your relationship, I hope it has as much of a positive impact for you as it has for us.
Jon and I went through that book as well. It kind of came back and haunted me at times, though. Like I had said that I was planning on getting up and making us breakfast every morning... Well, when I was working and going to school full time, that wasn't one of my top priorities... So I had to apologize to Jon for getting his hopes up for something I had said I would do. Anyway, I am so excited for you! This book made us excited thinking about being MARRIED, and the wonderful life we had ahead of us! Nathan is one lucky man!!
ReplyDeleteWow crazy! D and I were just talking about this book this morning and about how deep all of the questions are. I'll be looking forward to reading this book sometime in the near future.
ReplyDeleteWait, wait....I mean....sometime in the far, distant future...
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Oh Shan you kill me. Maybe you and D should read it so you can have all your answers figured out by the time you find "the one." JK ;)
ReplyDeleteAnd Melissa... very good point... sometimes I think we're too idealistic for our own good. Gotta let the newlyweds dream a little though, right?? :) Thanks for the warning!